Online Dating Tips For Women
March 4th, 2010
As online dating becomes more popular, people are willing to embark into finding love online. The success rate of looking for the right partner through internet dating service is increasing; however, stories about scams and fraud still prevail now and then.
It is important for women in search of their Mr Right to exercise certain caution. Here are some online dating tips for women:
- 1. Do not lower your standard and expectation while searching online. In fact as you are faced with so many different people from all over the world, you can take your time to find the right man. Think carefully about the type of man you want to meet and carefully list them in the profile of people you want to meet page and keep a copy yourself as a reminder.
- 2. On the flip side, you have to be realistic with your expectations too. Can there be an ideal man? Probably not, but that doesn’t mean you should not be selective. It only means that you have to accept certain flaws in a person as long as your values and beliefs are not compromised.
- 3. Create an interesting and honest profile. Write something witty that will catch the attention of Mr Right. Remember that whatever you have written in your profile is also the first impression you are giving. It could make you attractive or seems unapproachable. Do not attempt to deceive by giving false impression.
- 4. When you upload your photo onto the internet dating site, choose a nice photo that truly represents you. Show recent photos and not photos in your younger days. Your photo also describes you; hence beware of what you want to be seen as. A picture of you in sexily clad outfit will give an unfavourable impression and you could attract the wrong type of men.
- 5. Be safe and do not give too much information about yourself online. Exercise common sense and it is always good to take precaution than to be sorry later. Do not give personal home address, work place and telephone contact too quickly. If you plan to meet your online date, choose a place that is central for both of you, preferable somewhere crowded and let someone know that where you are going and who you are meeting.
- 6. Trust your instinct, if you feel uneasy about your online date, you have the right to stop and terminate all contact. You can let your online date down gently but do not hang on just because you don’t want to offend.
There are many online dating tips for woman available to help you have a safe and enjoyable experience. Do your research on internet dating sites and you could be on your way to finding love online.
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online dating tips?????????Im a 20 year old guy on a few online dating sites, i don't drink or smoke and i don't really like wild parties. i like to go out once in awhile and stay in too. i'm looking for somone honest and committed. Do you guys have any tips for me to put in my profile, like a headline and what are some things that are turn ons and turn offs to see in a profile?
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More people are finding their love online, as online dating grows in popularity, there is a need for to be more informed about online dating and internet dating services. Jennifer Lim writes about online dating tips, dating skills, relationship building and reviews on dating book and online dating sites in Make love happen @ friendsunlimited .
March 4th, 2010 at 10:28 am
don't make your profile a life story cause no one will read it; make it short and sweet with readers kind of hanging so they have questions to ask you.
don't put like shirtless pictures up cause it's just tacky.
and the reason people get weird when you say your a bodybuilder/actor because it's not a legit career. maybe offer a backup career.
March 4th, 2010 at 10:56 am
stop trying so hard…
there are plenty of women out there.. i meet loads off here..
March 4th, 2010 at 10:58 am
yep…this is why you must keep your morals and search carefully when choosing to do online dating.
March 4th, 2010 at 11:18 am
great tips!
March 4th, 2010 at 1:01 pm
@SheSingsLovely those are especially. i feel those want sex or want to see how gullible you are.
March 4th, 2010 at 4:35 pm
Most women are bitches. I know – I am one. We tend to be "cold" because we don't know you, or are possibly in a relationship and would feel we're disrespecting our sig other if if we were to talk to you – you may mean it friendly but the bf could see it otherwise. Also, she might take the friendliness as a intro to tryin to have sex with her or something. So, be a little more upfront and instead of saying you seem interesting can I get to know you…say something like I really like to meet new people and you seem like someone I'd like to know. and make it clear you don't have hidden sex-driven agendas.
March 4th, 2010 at 5:29 pm
Its your lucky day my friend. I think I can help you.
Having a sense of humor is great. That'll come in handy. So is staying in shape and good fashion sense.
The great thing is, if you can meet and attract quality women in one place, you can do it anywhere. You just need some tools.
Alright, first of all, you have to understand how attraction works for women and men. How many times have you seen a beautiful woman with an average or less than average guy? I've seen it thousands of times. Now reverse that. How many times have you seen a great-looking guy with an average or less than average woman? Not too often right?
Heres why: Men are very visual when it comes to women. Its not our fault. We spent thousands and thousands of years living in primitive tribal societies, similar to animal herds or packs. In a primitive tribal society, the males look for the young, healthy and attractive females to mate with, because they'll bear children, etc. We pretend like we're not connected to our primitive past, but we are in more ways than we know.
However, what are the females of these primitive tribal societies looking for? Any male can impregnate them, but not every male can provide food, shelter, protection and status. In this situation the chief of the tribe (or a great warrior, etc) would be the most desirable one, regardless of his appearance. Nowadays, with feminism, womens liberation, equality laws, etc etc, and our modern society, food and shelter are basically taken care of, as is protection to a large extent. (police, army etc) So whats left? Status.
Status is the one thing that is guaranteed to attract women to you like a magnet. Being seen as the social center of a room or club will help you enormously, no matter what your looks are or how little money you have.
Thats one principle you need to know. Now heres something else you need to know.
One of the most important rules of seduction is what Mystery (AKA Erik Von Markovic), arguably the worlds greatest pickup artist calls "the Cat String Theory".
Picture a cat playing with a piece of string. As long as you pull it and move it around, the cat goes nuts, rolling and jumping for it, but as soon as you drop it, it'll pounce on it then lose interest just as fast.
Mystery tells his students to "be the dancing string".
Its a set-in-stone psychological law. We dont appreciate things that just fall into our laps. Thats why women never go for the sweet nice guys, 'cause theyre always going to be there. Theyre taken for granted. This law goes for both men and women incidentally. If we can have something anytime, we take it for granted. We have to work for something in order to really appreciate it.
The key is to be a nice, sweet guy with an edge, and some balls.
Bottom Line Rule: To get a girl you have to be willing to risk losing her. If you take no risks, you'll never win anything, but with a calculated risk and the right card play, you can win big.
See, beautiful women are used to attention from men. Some get to the point where they just expect men to drool over them and cater to their every whim. Note, many men do this, and women dont respect them. Beautiful women get approached all the time, and when they meet a guy who seems immune to their charm as a woman, it intrigues them. Intrigue, when played right, can lead to seduction.
Now, to the point. You need to know how to kiss-close.
This is called the Mystery Kiss-Close, named for the aforementioned Mystery, who created it. Basically, all night, look for IOI's (indicators of interest) from this girl. If she focuses on you a disproportionate amount of time, thats one. If you high-five her and drop your hand slowly, and she hangs on, thats another. If she asks you certain questions about yourself, that could be another. If she cries out in some way or another for your attention while youre ignoring her, that could be one too.
Now, at some point after a good bit of ignoring and negging preferably after you end a good joke or story, find a reason to lead her away (isolate) and sit her down. If on, the way, you squeeze her hand lightly and she she squeezes back, thats another IOI.
Sit her down, chat/flirt with her for a few minutes, escalating physical contact (light touching, nothing inappropriate, and it must seem natural and feel right), and then let the conversation trail off into silence. After a few seconds, she'll say something. If it starts with "So….?", thats another IOI. If youve seen at least 3 IOI's its now relatively safe to phase-shift.
Ask her: "Do you want to kiss me?" Now theres three possible answers.
1) "Yes." Kiss her
2) "No" Respond with " I didnt say you could. You just looked like you had something on your mind."
3) "Maybe". Respond: "Well lets find out", and kiss her.
The Mystery kiss-close. "Every contigency is planned for."
Theres also a myriad of different number-closes but if you play your opener and post-opener game right, numbers will magically appear.
So thats the basics. I suggest though, that as an intro to the art of pickup and the seduction community, you read Neil Strauss' The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists.
And to further your knowledge of social dynamics-based pickup, you should read Mystery's The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed.
Good luck!
March 4th, 2010 at 6:31 pm
Well just be frank and state you dont want a relationship, just sex. You gotta be very clear about that otherwise you'll be flooded with replies from women who want a relationship, then have them act like uptight snobs when you tell them what you want.
I would say:
"Goodevening ladies, I am [blah blah blah], and I am seeking an adventurous [blah blah blah] for a night of passion and whatever.
Well I wouldn't say "passion and whatever", but if you just say sex, it will look too sleazy and you'll attract some crackwhore or something. If you take the time to write something more interesting than "M seeking W 4 SEX" then you'll get more and better replies to your ad.
And look at all these other answers! What a bunch of uptight self righteous snobs! If they didnt like this question then who held a gun to their head and forced them to answer?
Sorry if my grammar is bad, I am drunk.
March 4th, 2010 at 7:42 pm
I was on online dating for over a year. People lied to me and used me =[.
I think I finally have a boyfriend, he says he wants to be with me…
BUT I logged on and it says he got on…
what does that mean when they keep getting online when they say the want to be your boyfriend?
March 4th, 2010 at 9:12 pm
I have to take a break once cause I wasn’t meeting anyone good. But after the break you get a fresh start. Hopefully some of my tips can help you weed those clingy men out…They are the ones that ask for your number too early, want to meet to soon, or are saying early on that he may have met “the one.”
March 4th, 2010 at 9:40 pm
Most dating sites have a larger male ratio, except for sites like eHarmony, which are unique, because they have more women, than men. Some websites are even free for women, to attract women to their sites, because they have so few, and are otherwise all male, just like many bars and clubs have ladies night.
You can try almost any website, and specifically search by religion. This is an option available on any major dating site like eHarmony, Match.com, Yahoo Personals, etc. There are specific dating sites that are religion specific like christiansingles.com, but they may not believe exactly the same things you do, since each Christian religion differs slightly. I could list a few dozen here, but honestly, I couldn't tell you how good they are. You can do a simple google search and easily find them.
Any dating site, will feature a free-trial period ranging anywhere from a few days, to 2-weeks. As I mentioned before, many dating sites will even offer free enrollment for women, because they are mostly male.
My advice would be try a few. Use more than one photo on the site, and actively search the site and respond to profiles you like. Most dating sites are very superficial. They'll look at your photo in the search, and only if they like how you look, will they even view your profile. You may write a lot about yourself, but often short messages are better, because then they'll actually take the time to read what you wrote. Quite often, people will ask you questions to things you already answered in your profile, proving they haven't actually read it, and this is a mass mailing.
Be careful who you respond to, because there are spammers on these sites, although most spammers tend to be people posing as women, not men.
If you do meet, make sure you've chatted on the phone first. You can use *67 to block your number on their Caller-ID. This is very helpful to avoid stalkers. If you do meet, meet during the day, in a public place. Tell someone who you'll be meeting, when, and where. Arrange to call that person at a designated time. Go to the bathroom, before you order food, so that your food isn't tampered with. Cover your cup, so that it isn't tampered with. Keep the first meeting short, like coffee, during the day. That way, if its a bad date, it wont last long, and if its a good date, you can continue hanging-out, well into the evening.
You can also try sites like Craigslist.com, which don't have profiles, but do offer free personal ads. This site has gotten a bad reputation, but there are some religious people who meet there.
You can ask your church which places they recommend. Often, churches will try to cater to singles, because they want you to meet people, get married, in their church, baptize your kids, in their church, and raise your family, in their church, and then have your kids married, in their church. They rely on generations to keep the church open, and so many are catering to singles, and will be able to recommend either websites, organizations or may even host dances or parties for singles. Infact, they may even be hosting something tonight, since its New Years Eve.
Best of luck in life and love.
March 5th, 2010 at 12:08 pm
i’ve taken a break from online dating b4…but I also have had unpleasant experiences…indeed there are MANY clingy men also I’d say 70-90% of men on these sites are looking for fuck buddies (regardless of race) YAWN. If he starts talking abt sex first time…RUN THE FUCK AWAY lol
March 5th, 2010 at 3:07 pm
That is an excellent video! I love your way of speaking and delivering the message, you seem very genuine and sincere which in the dating tips scene is not really the case most of the time. I wish you luck on your search, online dating got me married so I know it works!!
March 6th, 2010 at 6:30 am
have you tried world of warcraft?
March 7th, 2010 at 4:42 am
It really depends on the woman. I just turned 30 and I actually prefer older men. So it really is a personal preference like everything else. I have met a lot of people through meetup groups. Most major cities have them and it is no pressure. Also signing up for classes–cooking, art appreciation…etc is a nice way to meet people who may have a similar interest as you. Good Luck!
March 7th, 2010 at 8:05 am
I think you need to speak to him…cause if he is genuinely interested, he wouldn’t feel a need to continue searching on that site.
March 7th, 2010 at 1:51 pm
absolutly! I can’t believe I forgot that tip!!! I’ve had to cut guys off quickly just because of that.
March 7th, 2010 at 2:48 pm
I think it depends on the dating service you are using. Eharmony is going to work a little bit better than say yahoo personals or match.com. Try to use a dating service that verifies who the people are. I used Eharmony for a while but even there you run into problems. People use 2-3 year old pictures from when they were 30 pounds lighter or more attractive and they can always say whatever they want to on their profile.
I would say do your research. Once you make it to the communication stages of an online match you can always look for them on Myspace or Facebook or even just Google them and you'll be surprised with what you can come up with. If you decide to go on a first date/meeting with them, make sure you drive separately, tell a friend where you are going to you can have an out and also choose somewhere that is very public so if you decide you need to bail, you can w/o making too much of a scene.